Close relatives and friends of someone who has died need to grieve for that person; bereavement typically involves a number of different processes from disbelief at what has happened to acceptance, and often takes about two years, sometimes much more.
During this period, you may at times find it difficult to cope. If so, it is wise to seek help, rather than tell yourself that you should be able to cope. If any of the necessary processes involved in bereavement is not worked through, it is probable that the end of the bereavement process will be delayed.
You may have heard of a charity known as CRUSE, which is involved in bereavement counselling, and publishes leaflets which you may find helpful. To obtain a copy of their publications list, you should contact them at:
Cruse Bereavement Care
P O Box 800
Surrey TW9 1VR
Telephone number: 0808 808 1677
Taken from the Cruse website:
The Cruse Bereavement Care Freephone National Helpline is staffed by trained bereavement volunteers, who offer emotional support to anyone affected by bereavement.
Their volunteers are here to help you talk things through. They can also help you find your local Cruse service, or signpost you to other services and useful sources of information.
The helpline is open Monday-Friday 9.30-5pm (excluding bank holidays), with extended hours on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday evenings, when we’re open until 8pm.